So many times, we hear from the Groom or the Best Man that they are very nervous about doing a speech. It is a happy occasion, not a job interview!. Remember you are surrounded by those that the couple has invited and they are there to celebrate the day with them; they are not there to judge! As long as you do some preparations, it will enable your speech to go smoothly, and you may even enjoy it. Don't be afraid to have a quick drink to calm the nerves but keep that in check until at least the speech has finished. You need to be alert and aware of how you address friends and family with some simple guidelines, as seen below.
1. Make some notes. Don't wing it
Cue cards to keep you on track are the most you should use.
2. Know your audience
Think about who is in the room and how much detail people need to know and careful of any bad language —not more than a little if necessary to a good story, keep in mind you're not with your mates, it's a formal occasion.
3. Always check people can hear you
No mumbling at 200 words per minute! Deep breath and speak loud enough for guests to hear, a little self-practice before the big day will help to know how to project your voice and give you confidence.
4. How to add humour
For fun, use some light teasing of the person for who you're making a toast. Think of silly things that will help bring a smile to those listening. Idiotic but lovable stories work well. Any funny story about someone should always be told with a big dose of love. This isn't a place to settle scores or tell anyone off.
5. State the obvious
Such as the bride and the bridesmaids look beautiful, and her mother must be proud and the groom is a lucky man.
6. How to bring a tear to family and friends at a wedding
Don't be scared to pay tribute to someone who can't be there, a family member may have passed away or been very ill and couldn't make it, they shouldn't be left out of the speech if they were very important to the Bride or Groom. If you're going to do this, make sure you get their names absolutely correct.
7. Check that glasses are full
Before you raise a toast, ensure everyone has something in their glass. "Ladies and gentleman, thank you for your attention, I would now like to raise a toast to my amazing friend….."